When you are in the process of ending a relationship, it can be tempting to resort to name-calling and other behaviors that are not helpful to your situation.
A common reaction to the stress of ending a relationship is to rename your former partner on your phone.
While you may feel justified in assigning an unflattering name to your ex: “psycho,” “idiot,” “gold digger,” to name a few, this behavior is not helpful and may be used against you later.
Name Calling Can Be Considered Verbal Abuse
Text messages are often entered into evidence to show a pattern of behavior to a judge.
If you forget the name change before submitting the texts, the judge will have a pattern of behavior between the parties as well as a look at your attitude towards your ex.
One of the statutory requirements the judge must consider when determining a parenting plan and parenting responsibility, is whether or not a parent is able to set aside their feelings for the other parent in order to consider the best interests of the child.
Calling your ex a nasty name on your phone does not show that you have that ability.
What Does Name Calling Do To Your Child?
Another, and perhaps more important issue, is your child(ren)’s feelings. Children sometimes look at their parent’s phones.
The other parent is a part of your child(ren) and your child(ren) take what you say and how you act towards their other parent to heart.
They may not tell you, but seeing Mom or Dad referred to as something other than their name is hurtful.
Ending a relationship is difficult and stressful. Regardless of what the other party is doing, it is important for you to remain respectful.
Your child(ren) – and your attorney – will thank you.
